To be a Friend

(Italics = Them ; Bold = Me)

People aren't what they do - their actions are separate from who they are.

But don't their actions speak to who they are?

Living easily is better than living morally, accountability is overrated.

Living that way is self-disrespecting and it is hard to imagine being happy without self-respect.

Your boyfriend is the only person you have that'll do right by you.

That's minimizing his effort in our relationship; because he values me and himself enough to do so?

Your terms for friendship are unreasonable; respect and empathy are too much to ask for.

But isn't that the bare minimum?

Love isn't supposed to be a deep emotional investment - it's self serving.

Love takes hard work and is often an investment.

It doesn't affect me when you've been wronged, and it shouldn't affect me.

I shouldn't be questioning my ‘over-reactiveness’, or 'oversensitivity.’ If I'm the one who is constantly adjusting my own behavior to avoid being hurt or to be "simpler," then you're not a good friend.

Accountability is overrated, and you've barely ailed.

Loyalty and accountability are a big part of growing up and you're telling me that they're not important and that I've failed to achieve them.

Friendships shouldn't require work - you are not necessary to me.

People should have boundaries but ultimately aren't there sacrifices to be made for the sake of love and sanity?

Just because some people think different than you doesn't make them horrible.

I agree, being good or bad isn't necessarily binary, everyone has their reasons and motives and I can appreciate that.

It's incriminating to be uncomfortable; you're intentionally feeling pain and making it your problem and mine.

But how can I control that? Isn't it reasonable to be triggered by disrespect, ignorance, and betrayal?

A social community without a deep emotional connection is what I value most - I don't want to be socially constricted.

Will social status be important in the long run? What happens when things get hard for you and those people aren't there because it's not convenient for them?

You have self-reflection to do - friendships aren't reciprocal.

Am I the only one? If friendships aren't reciprocal then what's the point of them? Why do humans desire companionship then?

Nothing is ever going to change for you because your mindset is static.

Have I not spent the majority of the last 2 years consistently growing and changing after each difficult experience?

There's a reason so many of your friends have left you.

There are many reasons friendships don't workout, and in these cases it's emotional maturity.

You'll blame this whole thing on me like your other relationships.

People can be different, and things can fall apart with blame only being a small part of the context.

I have anxiety, too, but I don’t have a blog.

Ok.

*No response at all*

People who care about you won’t let you go on feeling crappy without attempting to sort it out. That doesn’t mean you’ll sort it out of course, but at least they’ll try.